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An awesome re awakening: A Ph.D and my Horsemanship Journey, what??

Less than a week ago I had a great conversation with Brian Reid of HKTWH with its intent to work out some details re schedule an event spring 2013 at Sable View. Early- mid spring — fyi :)

The call was so not about the scheduling and I’m so happy. Oh sure we discussed some  details but it was the inspiration  absorbed and  the direction the call took me in that is truely awesome.

We discussed  visions and experiences, and how things  line up for a reason. Im all over that. We discussed  past  workshops Brian had held durring th yr, and the outcomes that Brenda inabled. The thinking was very “Forward” . I like Forward!  The negative stuff can’t stick if you’re on a roll. Your horse can’t buck as bad and twist if he is moving forward. Hold him back and bottle him up and , you better be ready to deal with the energy.

As a funny off shoot story here, I had a horse long ago, Oliver ( Ollie). An Irish Sport Horse. We fox hunted, evented into Prelim. He was cool. Anyway a couple of his “things” were , He would spanish walk  naturally, not taught.  So cool. Not a typical Fox hunting thing to do!  It was so easy to  ask him to do. Going down the dirt rds, while roading hounds , all fancy..HAHAHAHA !  I would have him do it long. Most of the time it was requested as every one loved to see it!  He would also on a flat our run across a field do “Airs above the ground” and leep out of his bell boots. Litterally they would go flying almost every time. Not rip but fly!  He was so exhuberant! Just loved life! Funny to other to watch. It was not a scary thing , powerful?  You bet, awesome  in fact, but not scary. Why?? Because once I knew it was his thing, it became  ”Normal”, ( great normal right!) and most importantly it happened with forward motion.  It happend all in stride and it was done and we went on. What a horse! What a teacher!

Now back to my conversation with  BR: Durring our conversation a couple names I hadn’t thought about in a while were brought up. TED (www.TED.com) and another  Brene Brown( www.BreneBrown.com). Its funny how things go full cycle, in this case re-appearing when the student is ready. The word “Vulnerable” played a big part in our talk. We discussed its meaning in some diferent ways . Not suprising I related it to my horsemanship journey as Brian discussed how  his experience with Ms. Browns work was still unfolding new  pages to get through. It all fit.

After our call I was fully charged and went straight to my computer to search out both teaching topics. What came from that is I noted a great opportunity to share with my daughter who is a Jr in HS . The Massechesetts Conference for Woman in Boston MA. www.maconferenceforwomen.org.  Dr. Brene Brown  is one of the key Note speakers, as well as Deepak Chopra and others, WOW!  Long story short  we and a few of her school mates and teachers are going .

The word Vulnerable is probably thought of in one main light by most of society, Including me till now.  Its a strength, not a weakness.  It allows us to do what  I have been prompted to do on a few occations at clinics. Get rid of the baggage and accept you as “Enough” . This is not normal for us humans, its a tall order for a lot of us.  I have had a manta developed  for a few yrs now after a ground breaking Parelli clinic with Jerry Williams, (one of many I might add), and I still  fight the negaitve tendancies. Hmm…guess Im not perfect!  My montra is “I AM GOOD ENOUGH”  made up of very  poignant words and phrases for which the mantra is an Acronym.

If we want to be real with our horses and have our horse be real with us, we need to be real with ourselves. They can see throught us like nothing else and when we even begin to get real they respond instantly. No invisibility cloaks to hide behind. Just be you in all your “Imperfect glory”,  and YOU are enough!

Stay tuned….



The rules of engagement and Grey Matter.

In the “Natural Horsemanship” world  how horses interact  is referred to as many things, I like to call them “The Rules of Engagement!”  I believe they  have a progression. If you watch a herd it becomes clear. Messages are given, brief  time to understand  and respond, then  if  the response isn’t correct or fast enough, the  transmission mode of the message increases through its stages to the end being full on contact or a very intent driving force.  We have all seen it. No Grey Matter involved. What the stages and processes are is a whole different blog.

I have been thinking, again, of how we mentally need to be engaged with our horses,  to really be a part of them. So much of my horsemanship journey is a mind game. Im not alone in this , I know!  In general we have a need to concure our fears, phobia,  insecurites and the horse for many of us is our pathway to freedom of Grey Matter, Baggage. A way to find ourselves again

Amongst themselves, horses communicate seemingly telepathically . The key to their ” Rules of Engagement “ is Clarity.  They throw energy by simply stopping chewing or a twitch of an ear.  They make their point and get on with grazing. No Grey Matter involved. How wonderful ! Think about it , no hangin’ onto the emotive side of things. The ability to let go is a wonder!

I have to say I foster an decent ability to let a lot go and move on. Forgive and forget so to speak but our human make up is not that we can really ever let go. An instant may arise and we are brought back to a situation and we are steaming again. When we work with our horses we carry  what might happen with us, or what happened at work or at home etc etc. We as humans are so not moment to moment . It’s a real talent to shut off the world and tune in or tune out , however you wish to think of it. All this baggage is  transmitting energy.  Horses feel it long before you enter the barn yard.  Not the horse. Other than a stand made for herd breeding rights, and that watchful eye that must be kept , life is  as it is,  moment to moment. A Get it, got it, good attitude.

Recently I attended The Vermont Grazing Conference and the guest speaker was Dr, Temple Grandin, need I say more. No Grey Matter , just as it is. I envy her in so many ways.  Speaking for myself , I think having read her work and now meeting her , I have a clearer vision of what I need to try and mimic in order to get what I think would be the ultimate in communication between my horses and me.  If I wish to be  more like a horse, I need to be more black and white in my communication.   Horses live as I said before , moment to moment . So  other than a really bad experience , usually human induced or involved in some way, they go on. No bagggage attatched, no grudges .  Each day, each moment is fresh. The hierarchy is established, plain and simple , Black and White, and there is a symbiotic flow of energy, it very natural! Though, naturally there are shifts in leadership , and the flow is broken, as in any Family Unit or Herd,  it is handled, and finished,  sorted out , shift  either happens or  was held a bay, done, life goes on.

The Rules of Engagement: simple laws followed and lived by with great results.

How can we develop and fine tune the practice of ” Turning on – and – Turning off” of emotions. Wouldnt it be great to have a “Clapper.” Honestly  ! Its an on going study for me. I continuously attend clinic , and  expo events to watch , listen and learn, and still take lessons myself. I also do a good bit of reading , all to grow through my own “Grey Matter” and see and communicate more clearly…. Black and White!

I think as I near the end of this Blog post one of the first steps to no Grey Matter is …..

Dont Take it personally.  I want to make a suggestion,  read the Four Agreements by don Miguel Ruiz.