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How I came to understand the handling of disease.

 

How I came to understand the handling of disease.

I wanted to give you a a synapsis of a bigger blog I’m writing , that kind of got away from me as I think I used it to vent . It may not get put out there… it’s good but it does go on a bit.

So for the sake of clarification, I offer you this bit of clarity I found in understanding disease – specifically cancer.

Imagine you and your body just going along, everything seems fine, but a couple things are causing you some minor issues. You treat them or maybe ignore them as they aren’t really in your way yet. Maybe you see a Dr , take med’s, OTC’s or whatever and get through the issue by passing it over – not really addressing the root cause. God forbid we should miss a beat in this fast pace world.

Now relate that to your horses if you have them, or other animals. We go along and in our own little world we think it’s all good. We notice a couple instances where our horse gets a bit pushy, or has an attitude. Lots of people try to carrot their way out of things , instead of correcting it and setting a standard. They don’t want to have the horse not like them because they were mean. (Don’t deprive yourself of things you want even if you know they are not good for you). It’s easier, but is it?

Just this morning while feeding my colt, he got very anxious to eat and if I let that type of behavior go, he will grow to think he can just be a feisty boy and not learn to wait till his feed is placed. I say it is ok to come forward with manners, but not barge. Big life lessons! Sure it takes a bit of time, less than a minute!

Time passes and say you don’t do as I do and let things go thinking “oh he is just a baby” … well babies grow up! They don’t have to be a baby either – this is more often seen by me in well established horses, 6-12 yrs old. You live with them, you really don’t see anything as a potential issue to build for future, and don’t have time to correct anyway. Or do you??? It takes less time to pull a baby weed sprout than a full grow dandelion.

Now back to disease..

So we are going along busy busy and with out thinking really about our body speaking, we just keep taking on new symptom or old symptom getting louder. Typically we take more Otc”s for example and go along. Instant gratification. Got forbid we should stop and think. Again does it take less time now or later?? Hmm….

Time lapse… a couple yrs down the road you finally have an issue you can’t control with OTC’s or prescription stuff. Hmm ?? Dr take another x-ray, hmm? lets get a better look, we see something but we will run a CT Scan.

Results! Take you out at the knees! You have allowed parts of your body become Left Brain dominant ( quietly maneuvering for a dominant positions, stubborn, don’t like to be made to go), and take over as they have not had any instruction, or direction otherwise towards health and the balance.

Dodging OTC’s, and drugs along the way that masked the underlying issues of a whole system /body imbalance- Dis -Ease!

Getting the picture!

Your horse one day when you have a wonderful day in spring to take some time to pay attention to them, and they say, screw you! And Bam. You’re on the ground or if your lucky just had the you know what scared out of you with a display of dominant behavior.
“You want me to behave now? Listen to you now? You ignored me with my whispers now I’m screaming! You never gave me any idea you were leading before, so you’re on my turf now.”

This was my revelation a couple weeks ago as I did stalls and tried to get my head around the health crisis my family is now enduring. Somethings take longer to catch on but bottom line is when your body or your horse is injured and brushed over for too long eventually you will be called to put your big girl/boy pants on and face the music you and only you created.

Horse behavior and disease let go are both dominant bad boys! Why? lack of clear communication and time put in to keep the lines of communication open.

Then you have an issue and all of a sudden you need to step up and assume responsibility for that you have created in you and or your horse.

That’s harder than dealing with it as it comes and finding the root cause. Boredom, poor diet, emotional stressor, etc etc.

Take some time to breathe and think and in the end issues will tap on the door, not knock it down and run you over, because you didn’t take the time to listen. With horses, I say “listen with your eyes”, with your body – feel! It’s simple, every day it speaks to you… just listen.

What we create we can dismantle, and release. Whether it be self inflicted or environmental, a issue can be released and detox can happen , with time and clear communication.

Funny, I was just down in the barn doing my stalls thinking back to this post and ralised soemthign else. This whole thought process can be attributed to raiising our kids too.  That is a whole other topic of which I have an opinion. LOL

Be well~

 

 

 

 

 

Making new connections on a big day

11/26/12 was a big day for young Troubadour. His gelding took place mid day and this is the story of what an amazing experience it turned out to be.

I will admit I was apprehensive of the event. I had never been on hand for a castration, had  ideas of what was to happen, the process etc, but was aware of  a few not good results and this added to my  angst.  I know thousands are done but I knew what I knew and that’s what stuck.

I have to give a big shout out to my vet , Keely Henderson of Lincoln VT. She has always been great and  was very supportive to everyone concerned yesterday. Even when  Tru was a bugger to get sedatives in. LOL!

Facts:

Tru  6 months 12/11/12, Not weaned yet.

This is the absolute best thing I could have done. Clearly not the norm. The look on Keely’s face when she saw him suckle on Sarah prior to  haltering. Tough! Love you Keely but this emotional tie and support made all the difference. Ill Thank Marcy Baer for  suggesting it . I was going to  wean him a bit ago as he was really drawing on Sarah. Instead I folowed my gut, and in turn Marcy’s  words of experience ,  and asked Sarah to tough it out and beefed up her feed etc etc . I will make the break  in a month or so, as it is happening anyway naturally. But when he seems  more of an individual, Ill know its  time to let Sarah have time with her own Mom and rest up. Tru will be with Popeye and Bill. Both good “Boys” to be with. He will learn his place! Horses are the best teachers!

I have seen him grow in independence and confidence over the last  couple weeks especially. Tru looks to mom now for moral support. Some times he forgets the others in the herd have  personal bubbles! Good lessons to learn. Herd dynamics 101!! He is learning to ask permission! Now that’s a novel idea eh?

Weeks Prior to the event I had researched my YL Essential Oils to aid in the process emotionally and physically.

I had Cistus on hand for emergency bleeding. Just in case.  Other than that I had YL Myrrh to apply in the area prior to. I applied  once earlier in the AM and again just prior to vet arrival. Its purpose  in this case was as an analgesic. I also applied some YL Valor  at  poll and whithers to shoulders , rump and  heels. Grounding and  inner calm. Also on hand was YL Sacred Angel which has found a good place in my barn . YL  Sacred Angel is best described like this.  Imagine a Tsunami coming in and a surf board. You need to stay above the turmoil so you get on the surf board and ride the wave.

When  the sedative was given  we walked him to a better spot to lay him down. Towels under his head and one over his eyes the process began. I stayed by his head and stroked his neck. For me, seeing him fade to the ground was pulling to say the least. He softly fell into my hands and I followed him to the ground.

While the process began I reached for the YL Sacred Angel and applied some to my hands, held it to his muzzle and he took in a purposeful breath. After things were all done, I took the Sacred Angel and  applied drops to the towel by his nose for him to breath in.

Tru laid there for an hr  after , trying to get up once but realised he was not ready and  laid back down.  Vet left after half hr as he was so calm and sensible.

I sat with him till he began to nicker to  his mom once and answered once to Granny up at barn who was looking for  mid day hay.  I could see his eyes getting more alert and next thing  he made the effort to get up all the way. After doing so  we stood together for a good 15-20 min, then he took a step or two and rested again .  After an hr of being up we had made 2 circuits of the arena. I was following him, where ever he wanted to go. He set the pace.  We had quiet talks and  I assured him  he was doing a great job. When he got wobbly I supported him with my  body. He was very willing to accept the help. All this time Mom( Sarah) stood quietly in the temp stall, she enjoyed a flake of hay.   It was so cold, Thankfully  my one hand  was patting him constantly on his neck as we strolled, and the other tuck in my coat holding the light lead line. Burr!

This time together was a real treat, at his expense :(

I would see him “Look” at me for reassurance. It was a deep look, beyond his yrs or months  as it were. I knew I was being looked at in a new way. Sure I had taught  or assisted him in learning things, but this was a “Thanks for  being here” look. Very Different.

After an hr of  learning to walk again, it was time to let mom out with him  in arena and let them hang out together.  First thing he did was nurse. No surprise! I had to convince Sarah she needed to let him at it , no issues this time. I left them for 1/2 hr  to go warm up.

Upon my return Tru was settled quietly  in an area of arena with Sarah not too far away.

I left them again for a bit longer. On my return, now 2.5 hrs post surgery, I haltered up and  slowly we made our way to barn. A long night ahead, stall rest. Tru and Sarah hunkered down together.  The bleeding was slowing, but still coming.

I  went to feed an hr or so later and poor Tru was stiff in neck from injections and tension so  he didn’t feel much like eating. Can’t blame him. Later on I came back to do night check and brought YL PanAway oil with me . I applied a few drops to my palm and rubbed it on the injection site and opposite side as well.  I noted bleeding had stopped and I was happy to go to bed.

Next AM 11/27 I was anxious to see how he was. Warned he wouldn’t want to move,  swelling etc etc. What did I see , a little nose poking out of stall bars, looking for breakfast! He ate right up, I opened stall door to paddock and  he strolled out like nothing. Sarah went right out to walk around and he was right there.  I was impressed.  I thought to  get a cookie and  dropped 5 drops of  YL Thieves oil on it and gave it to him.  Gobbled it right up. Before turn out in big field with others I picked his feet and applied more Thieves oil there to  boost the Anti factor!

Off he went to  bother Mr. Bill and  look for trouble. He was being a real pisser.

There was no need for me to instigate movement . He was  good to go on his own. using the PanAway  relived the pain and stiffness and  becasue of the oils  mindedness, they go where they are needed. Clearly  they worked  on him systemically!

He was tired at dinner today  but still fine. I applied some more PanAway and gave a Thieves cookies before dinner.

When ever I went out to check him today, he would toddle right over.  He would before too but now he comes with a different look. A different feel. We shared his big day and built new connections.

I learned a lot about Tru in this time. He impressed me so much with his very thinking manor. LBI I’m guessing! He knew enough to not panic, or go Right brain , and just chill till he could stand. He had support from his Mom right near by in temp panelled stall, me, and the oils. When he needed his mom , she was there, and was for the whole night to offer warmth and comfort. I have no doubt all these parts made this really good outcome  what it was. Perfect!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

An awesome re awakening: A Ph.D and my Horsemanship Journey, what??

Less than a week ago I had a great conversation with Brian Reid of HKTWH with its intent to work out some details re schedule an event spring 2013 at Sable View. Early- mid spring — fyi :)

The call was so not about the scheduling and I’m so happy. Oh sure we discussed some  details but it was the inspiration  absorbed and  the direction the call took me in that is truely awesome.

We discussed  visions and experiences, and how things  line up for a reason. Im all over that. We discussed  past  workshops Brian had held durring th yr, and the outcomes that Brenda inabled. The thinking was very “Forward” . I like Forward!  The negative stuff can’t stick if you’re on a roll. Your horse can’t buck as bad and twist if he is moving forward. Hold him back and bottle him up and , you better be ready to deal with the energy.

As a funny off shoot story here, I had a horse long ago, Oliver ( Ollie). An Irish Sport Horse. We fox hunted, evented into Prelim. He was cool. Anyway a couple of his “things” were , He would spanish walk  naturally, not taught.  So cool. Not a typical Fox hunting thing to do!  It was so easy to  ask him to do. Going down the dirt rds, while roading hounds , all fancy..HAHAHAHA !  I would have him do it long. Most of the time it was requested as every one loved to see it!  He would also on a flat our run across a field do “Airs above the ground” and leep out of his bell boots. Litterally they would go flying almost every time. Not rip but fly!  He was so exhuberant! Just loved life! Funny to other to watch. It was not a scary thing , powerful?  You bet, awesome  in fact, but not scary. Why?? Because once I knew it was his thing, it became  ”Normal”, ( great normal right!) and most importantly it happened with forward motion.  It happend all in stride and it was done and we went on. What a horse! What a teacher!

Now back to my conversation with  BR: Durring our conversation a couple names I hadn’t thought about in a while were brought up. TED (www.TED.com) and another  Brene Brown( www.BreneBrown.com). Its funny how things go full cycle, in this case re-appearing when the student is ready. The word “Vulnerable” played a big part in our talk. We discussed its meaning in some diferent ways . Not suprising I related it to my horsemanship journey as Brian discussed how  his experience with Ms. Browns work was still unfolding new  pages to get through. It all fit.

After our call I was fully charged and went straight to my computer to search out both teaching topics. What came from that is I noted a great opportunity to share with my daughter who is a Jr in HS . The Massechesetts Conference for Woman in Boston MA. www.maconferenceforwomen.org.  Dr. Brene Brown  is one of the key Note speakers, as well as Deepak Chopra and others, WOW!  Long story short  we and a few of her school mates and teachers are going .

The word Vulnerable is probably thought of in one main light by most of society, Including me till now.  Its a strength, not a weakness.  It allows us to do what  I have been prompted to do on a few occations at clinics. Get rid of the baggage and accept you as “Enough” . This is not normal for us humans, its a tall order for a lot of us.  I have had a manta developed  for a few yrs now after a ground breaking Parelli clinic with Jerry Williams, (one of many I might add), and I still  fight the negaitve tendancies. Hmm…guess Im not perfect!  My montra is “I AM GOOD ENOUGH”  made up of very  poignant words and phrases for which the mantra is an Acronym.

If we want to be real with our horses and have our horse be real with us, we need to be real with ourselves. They can see throught us like nothing else and when we even begin to get real they respond instantly. No invisibility cloaks to hide behind. Just be you in all your “Imperfect glory”,  and YOU are enough!

Stay tuned….

 

 

A picture speaks a thousand words! And teaching moments!

a split second in time but shows a lot.

Jennifer Kirkman with her wonderful partner Orion.  Jennifer has done a great job with her boy. He  had a few  fear issue , so we chose to play at GMHA casually to explore  what he was about. Water was one thing she said needed work, and  he walked through it , trotted through it, and as you can see in the picture, jumped into it. His willingness was wonderful. What I did note durring the course of our play was  his sensativity and introvertedness. Though big and  ploddy he is very aware of her energy and it doenst take much to get hi to respond. A huge respsosibility  going foreward to not blow him out of the water. Sorry no pun intended. LOL

He gets it just needs more time to process. Dont rush him and  he will be wonderful .

Jen mentioned he is good with things like water when she leads him but going on his own , if she is riding is a different story.

Great teaching point!!!

I see this a lot the confidence is on the ground but not when human is mounted. One way to  develop this from the ground to the saddle  is to begin to have them meet things first and  put yourself in followers position rather than the leaders. This is  including leaving the barn area. Another topic all together!

Lets break the horse into sections  A nose and forward, B neck/ shoulders, C mid section ( saddle area), D hind end, and E everything tail backwards.

What we want to do is begin to guide our horse from section A, normal area, to E.  It is not needed by all to do this especially  from the  rear sections but  if you so desire it to be, then  it is a progression. Nothing wrong with confidence  in all sections.  Driving horses  do this  as thier job. Some horses, non driving , need it to be addressed others  are very tollerant and its never an issue. All depend on  personality and  how they have or have not  been developed.

For Orion and his water:

For Jen to be able to x water aboard him she will need to begin to ask him to step up his part of the bargain and grow in his confidence  step by step.  The water  at GMHA was a  great intro. We crossed   large  streams and stood to play and drink. He ended up taking the lead and  looking for  Jen to come along. This is super.  In the end we  came to the water obstacle seen in photo.

In the picture we can see a split second in time.  Some mixed messages it looks like but being there I can say it was a split second in time. Still a teaching moment taken, Thank you Jen!  To allow  Orion to  do his thing  the  guiding hand( with line) must say and denote the freedom to go.  We see a bit of  a holding  tension in photo. “The door is open this is your route forward” is  a way to think of it.  I beleive the  taughtness was a bit of  negotiating  direction on Jen’s part but still  it is his jump and we need to allow him to make the manuver on his own.  We can move our feet if need be, or let slack out in rope.  we must be flexible when  teaching. Every horse is differnet and  needs  different support styles. Micromanaging will only  get in the way of progress in anything especially  his confidence. Orion, made a wonderful jump down into the water. He  sized it up  all on his own, and when he found his sweet spot  he went. The secret is to give him, them , the time they need  to  think it through and  do it on  thier time.  Rest the encouraging arm and allow with the guiding  one.

Big day for Orion and Jen.  Well Done!

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Planning for weaning, raising the bar!

Yesterday I was in an E conversation with my vet re  basic protocol for  Troubadour. Discussions of weaning and gelding came up. The weaning process is really taking effect on its own naturally,  but yes I will make a real dat,e so to speak to separate the two . I have seen way to many very awkward situations with  offspring  still trying to suckle at  yrs old. Not cool! Not productive.

In any case  we have at least a month or so to go ,as he will only be 3 months old  8/27/12, Im not rushing it. I think it will be sooner than later as Tru is very settled and day by day I see him stepping out on his own. Still looks for Mom but  has pals to seek comfort from as well.

This morning as we went through our morning routine, grooming , Mom  tied , Tru loose but he stays put pretty well.  Sometimes curiosity wins out.

I do one then  the other. As I Do Tru I have a small string round his  wither /neck area.  Like a riding neck rope.  He responds well to it and  for the most part stands well for feet etc with just it. Not bad!  I use Mom’s comfort as a tool. he finds a spot by her and  im pretty good to do anything. he is gettign really good with feet. still a time or 2 where he might  resist but I discoverd  his comfortable way to be held.  Trial and error!

I have raised the bar a bit for both of us. I  have made the grooming routine a real routine. Pattern animals, yes? Before I  separate the two I need to really have a good foundation , better  than we have already in order to  make the next stage of his growth worry free. What is my plan? I will enter his life more and more over the next  month or so with more domestic focused  tasks. Not any fancy stuff  but the basics and have it be so Im as good as Mom for support and comfort.  So that what I ask of him  will be accepted. grooming , feet,  shots  etc. This will be were the rubber meets ther rd. Human interaction and almost a bit of “Domestication” from what he has been used to will begin to  happen . It wont be hard, he gets it . I can intorduce things to him for a few days a then let it go and  he picks right back up  after a few minutes.  Now ill see  if all my thoughtful work till now  has any holes. Im sure it will but then ill learn to fill them in!

As we do our grooming with his favorite rubber mit , I am sure to explore all ares of his body. Tru seems to like his tail being brushed too.

What I have  taken to doing now as a progression, is to wrap myself around his mid section and grooming  the opposite side . I basically am draping myself over him , he  doesnt  think twice.  Good first ride prep eh?.  I have changed my touch over time, it is getting firmer, more solid,  as he is more accepting. He follows a feel very well, again with just a neck rope. Dont want to raise a wilting violet! Breath and they  spook! Ugh! I still  put the halter on but do most my “time ” with him with out up to now.

I sat down and thought to myself  what did I want to get done. This is what I came up with:

To go through the  holes I have found in my other horses,   as  well as others that I work with,  that I want to  address before they  show up as holes!   I am a great observer. I  learn from my  mistakes and those I view of others.

Lots of  resposibility going forward . I never took it lightly, but  now facing  the  separation from a great Mare, who has been even better than I exected, its now my turn to step in and take over the raising of Troubadour.  I will still have help for the herd . I will rely on them a lot!  Granny( Diana), and Popeye, Mr. Bill and Cora will be vital to keeping it natural!

Stay tuned!

 

 

 

 

Watching Troubadour grow, and allowing him to develop

Mr personality! You lookin’ at me? of course you are!

Today , a day off 2 months old, I took Tru out with his Mom, and big friend Popeye. I lead Sarah off Pop and the little  guy followed along. We traveled up the rd a bit to the trail head and  had a couple trots and a couple  breaks to munch on grass.  Bugs were horrific.

When  Tru found an opening  on the way home he decided to be adventurous and scoot ahead of us.  Too funny!   So great to see him explore uninhibited. He is developing so well. He is confident in most things. Still has an opinion which I acknowledge and move through if need be.

On our rd ride back to barn he decided he would lead us home. Popeye looked at him like , “Yeah right, shove over and get back in line”. Pop  stuck his nose out to Tru’s butt and shoved him lighlty. Tru took the hint and moved over and let us thru and he snuck back in behind Mom.

He loves Poppy and has a healthy respect for his size( in comparison). In fact I think he really looks up to him. I love going to the barn and seeing Sarah, Tru and Pop sharing a stall together, just chillin’ and staying cool.

Allowing Tru to  grow and explore and devolop as naturally as possible is such a gift. Im so happy I know what I know. Raised Sarah( Mom) the same way but I know more now and have a real level of confidence in “My way” of doing things, “Hybrid Horsemanship”, than I did then ( 8 yrs ago).

Tru is teaching me already. What works and then again what doesn’t. Then, how to find a way that works for him while still not  micro managing.

I can totally  understand how easy that would be and  how much more time effecient it would be … but not gonna happen here! We will take the time it takes!

Stay tuned for more updates!

 

 

 

Proud to see them moving on!

Lots of time and thought and emotion has gone into a few select horses who have crossed my path over the last yr. Im happy to say that the last two are readying to move on in their lives with their owners or a new owner.

Support, wisdom and insight can be given only so long and then  everyone needs to step up and out and find how to make it their own. So much potential for  these horses but as not mine I have to also let go and say thank you to them  for lessons learned: Life lessons, horsemanship lessons, and managing humans lessons! the toughest of all.  The horses are the easy part! 

Everyone is on their own journey and  I can see so much more that these humans can gain from these partners they have. Bottom line is, it is not the right time, the students aren’t ready.  This is such a frusteration for me but again a lesson , acknowledging what I know and accepting what is. Tough!

I am very happy to say well done to the horses and best of luck going forward. Never stop teaching  your humans, whomever they may be, especially the hard lessons they really need !

 

 

 

 

Refelctions from an Amelia Kinkade Animal Communications course 7/12

 

Lessons keep coming: Refelctions from an Amelia Kinkade Animal Communications course

Amelia Kinkade, ( http://ameliakinkade.com), what an amazing oportunity to meet and grow with her as a guide.

After arriving home from my clinic with Amelia, my outlook was eased. We learned a lot , got a lot of affirmations to our communicative abilities, but also were asked to reflect inwards.

We were asked to release and forgive ourselves. Not easy to do. But I think everyone (40 students), made a good leap in the right direction, including me, LOL

We were also asked to define “Home” or “It” by Brian Reid, ( http://horsesknowthewayhome.com) .

Yes, as an added treat we were able to also learn from Brian Reid of HKTWH and the wonderful Shire mare Brenda Lee. The joining of these three teachers was huge!

Most of my time with my horses or those of boarders or students is not affirmed. By this I mean much of what I sence is gut and I go with it. I have learned its good enough and usually darn close. This past weekend I got a ton of affirmations that I was on track. My daily routine is practice enough I guess. I always take into account that little voice for me and for the horses.

Going to this weekend I was a bit unsure as I hadnt really been tested so to speak. We had our first group reading of the day after lunch on day 2( I had jumped in on day 2 due to prior commitment at my own farm) . I was called on by Amelia to say what I had received, so I did. No pressure! Freakily enough it was in sync with Amelia’s readings as well. Yicks. Some things I did not say she mentioned too. Omg it was huge. Next time I will literally write everything down.

After arriving home and thinking about things, with a new found depth of awarness and confidence , I realised a lot. I found what home was for me, or a clearer vision of it. Also a new depth on how to really be with my horses. I re assesesd again what my 2012 purpose(s) was, and found a great goal for me that also backed up just being with my horse(s). Funny how a detour leads to a better path to begin with. Its all a great game, and Im a willing player.

A lot of this is unexplainable, as you can imagine. A world reknowned animal communicator and a world reknowned “Life Coach “ working together. Things went deep. As deep as you would allow.

Where am I personally / professionally now? What were my revelations to move to “MY” next level?? Can’t tell it’s personal :)

Each of us has our own journey to travel and mine has been quite a ride. I am so excited now to see a new path to my ultimate goal .

I say, “New path”, but its just an off shoot of where I started yrs ago. Im only following what my horses lead me to. Its good for them and better for me. Thank God I’m an intuative person and even more, willing to go with it no matter what the “Norm” thinks!

***Brian Reid /HKTWH will be at Sable View in 2013. Look for the event info, and be amazed at where the experience take you. Personal and professional growth and awareness. http://horsesknowthewayhome.com

***Amelia Kinkade will be back to VT in May of 2013( still in the works ). Look for this and more up dates at

www.sableview.com

 

 

 

Winning friends and influencing horses.

Welcome to an excerpt from my up coming E book !

…..And so began my real journey, Unwrapping “D”

Layer by layer, “My Onion” , as I call her, began to reveal herself to me. How privileged I was. In my opinion she was just passed on owner to owner due to her very pretty head and finer features, but not really seen for who she really was. Im thinking the issues I found, were  what others came across  as well and passed her on rather than venture to help her find her real self. Take the time it took.

I made a promise to her she would never be passed on again. She needed to be grounded and trust, to feel like she belonged. We have a special bond. Not always perfect, sometimes like oil and water, but to me it is special and good. Why? You ask, if its not “Perfect”. You see D is so sensative she can feel you coming a mile away. Read your mind  before you even know your thoughts. I had to do in myself what I knew she needed to do. This is a part of Horsemanship not many promote. It should be!  Im blessed to have linked up with the perfect program to go forward for both of us.

The first witner I had her it took all of a couple months to just get her to relax with me ,or anyone else, for that matter in her personal space. A very big personal bubble. Treats, time and quiet all came together along with my little voice tellng me I needed to find a different way to be with her.

As fate would have it when we moved here we got satalite TV. Now I had horses on TV, how awesome! I began to watch the shows even more so when I knew I needed help, to see who made more sense to me. I had many years, since age 7, of ridng experience. Fox Hunting both as a lay member and as professional staff, hunter paces, eventing , showing , collegiate team riding etc , but something was missing. Innately I knew D needed to trust, so I was on track with taking that first winter to allow her to chill.  Imagine what the “Real” world was saying? Peer pressure, Phooey!

My Missions: How to be with her and have her feel the same trust while riden, and to not be so bracy. Is it Physical? Is it emotional?  Is it Me? ( This is a whole other topic but you do know “most often” it is us.)  These are all questions we should ask when things don’t go right. Follow the journey your horse is laying out for you. I did!  Grow and get uncomfortable. This was not simply a door opening, it was a gate way to a powerful journey,

“Making” her didn’t compute, aside from the fact I wasnt 16 any more. 4 kids and a few growing yrs with kids off from real intence horse time changed my perspecitve. Age begins to enter the picture. Any way, enter my decision to follow the world of “Natural Horsemanship” and what an amazing addition that was to my already well established foundation.

NH filled in so many pieces and allowed me to acknowledge my feelings, good bad or indifferent as well what I felt the horse was relaying. Imagine that taking the horses perspective into consideration. Wow!  This was like the best thing. Now I could acknowledge what I had instinctively done but never spoke of it.

To date I still refer to D as “My Onion” I also call her my monitor. When I’m good with her I’m great with everyone else. I am still peeling back layers on both of us. Even as rescently as the last 6 months or so we have reached a new level of communication and understanding. So cool.

Biggest lesson, you cannot make anything happen, and expect to win friends and infuence horses.

***** Look for more excerpts from the E Book, slated to  launch early summer.

 

Adjustments in Rain Drop Therapy

What better thing to be able to give yourself or your horse, dog , cat, than a spa day. Instilling health, wellness, peace of mind, cleansing of the  systems. This isn’t the real reason I love doing them… especially to horses but it is simply that once  at ease with the energy flow of the oils  they often fall asleep. Snore even! How cute!

For some horses the oils are not so welcome because in my mind they open up too much too soon. For others they welcome the Rain Drop  Therapy  from the get go. All depends on the day , the horse , the human, the underlying issues .

What I came to find was that on one of mine,  he really began to let the oils do the healing after his 3rd or 4th time, but it was too much  and he is so sensative emotionally  it really  got to him. Very similar reaction I have to accupuncture treatments.  I get all shakey , i can  reason my way  through it though, horses,

( Animals ) not so much. The results for that  Break Through treatment were astounding but  the application  had to be changed as the memory of  the protocol application  was not pleasent.

So, I took it upon myself to adjust application to this horse . My test dummy! Now a very willing, happy participant in spa days!

Last application to said horse was so relaxing.  Applied V6 oil first to back and legs and coronet, then applied oils as recommneded.  The hotter oils I applied to my hands first and massaged in.  Just sublte changes  made all the difference. It is important to remember it is that  no matter how the oils are applied, Vita Flex technique, or not, they will do their  task well.  As we are speaking now of the Rain Drop  they are typically dripped on but best to get them on so to  apply by hand is fine with gentle massage  strokes  that suite the patient and its all good. Always  follow  basic directions for each oil whenever in use and always note the patients needs and  reactions for further applications.

If all else fails Defuse!!